Blog #1

I am writing today about a personal experience that happened to me in the semi-recent past. I had a girlfriend of about 6-7 months when she decided that it was time to break up. Naturally, I was curious as to why as things had been going very smoothly for us up to almost the very last minute; and, naturally, her response was that it was not me but that it was her. Of course it seemed to typical of a response, but I did my best to refrain from assuming other reasons, and took her word for it. Since then, we have reconciled our relationship and gotten back together. She has explained that she did not know what she wanted at the time, and that she was very confused and overwhelmed with life and her lack of control over it. I believe that her freshmen year of college really challenged her self-concept, the way that she really thought about herself. He working self concept throughout that year was ever changing, with a lot of ups and downs therein. I believe that the college experience was overwhelming to her and sent her into a mental state that she had never been in before, one of lack of control and a need to always be on top of important things in life. Being in a relationship added to her confusion and doubt about her self concept, and I believe that is what led to our split. I believe her lack of accuracy about her self concept was due to being overwhelmed with life in general (not knowing a major, pressure from family and friends, having someone to answer to all the time). Her life experiences were as such that her support system from her friends has always been spotty, and not the best influence on her. Her values get torn between what she knows is right and what the people around her are doing, which I relate to the self-discrepancy theory. This is my blog for the week, and something that had just been on my mind recently, that I hope I was able to successfully relate to the recent lectures and discussions.